Barb Leigh, MA, CCC   Anxiety, depression, couples counsellor - Suite 205 - 3190 St Johns Street        Port Moody  V3H 2C7
Photo of Barb Leigh, counsellor in marriage/relationship issues, depression, anxiety, stress, anger management.

   Lower stress.  Calm anxiety.  Soothe irritability.

Did you know that just a  few sessions of counselling can impose some relief on a stressful life?  That time out from busy, goal-oriented activity is a way of becoming more efficient and reaching those goals?
When people gain insight into their own behaviour and thought patterns their lives often improve.  You can change your thinking, change your relationships, change your life.  If you have been dealing with stress, anxiety, or unexplained irritability, I can help you shift your orientation towards what is really important.  Hand-outs explaining specific techniques are available at end of sessions.

"My anxiety level went from an 8 to a 2 in just one session, and I learned how to do the tapping technique myself at home in case it occurred again."  R.Y., 32,  July 4, 2014
      

  Is it time to do something about your stress?  your anxiety? your irritability?
Call 604.992.1914 for a brief consult and/or to make an appointment. 

                                                 Improve your relationship.
                                                              
Perhaps you are sensing a disconnect with your spouse/partner or conflicts are escalating into shouting matches and hurt feelings.  Many couples say they feel safe and fully heard and understood after just one session - and not just by me, who is fully trained to do just that, but by their partners as well. 

It is not always necessary for both partners to attend couples or marriage counseling.  Sometimes  male clients call, asking for help in how to communicate with their female spouses/partners.  What a good idea!  And it is an equally good idea for women to do so - the truth is we do communicate differently, and this is simply a learning strategy to help you improve your couple closeness and understanding of each other.  

On the other hand, when couples argue, it is sometimes not about their communication skills, but a reaction to unhealed childhood hurts that are triggered by something said in anger.  Again, individual counselling can uncover and heal old memories, and thus make way for a more peaceful relationship.

As a couples counsellor, I help you investigate the positive aspects of your life together.  Using latest methods for marriage/relationship counselling developed by top therapists in Canada and the U.S. I work with you to develop better relationship skills and to get out of crisis mode/negative cycle if this is what is happening.   This includes a detailed 5-step map to improve communication and conflict resolution - this has proven to work well even for those who are conflict-avoidant!

The communication skills package also helps those who have shut down and those who have been shut down.  Little by little, partners learn how to really listen and respond without blame, without criticism, without denial and thus get to the root of the problem and reconnect with the love, respect and admiration they felt at the beginning of the relationship.

I also help newer couples who are not in crisis, but want some relationship counselling on how to enhance their partnership and how to nurture and accept each other.


Call 604.992.1914 for a brief consult and/or to make an appointment.


Deal with an affair.

Many individuals come in devastated after discovering their partner in an affair.  They are hurt and angry but don't want to give up.  They just don't know how to start the healing process.  Seeing a counsellor together is extremely helpful in containing the anger.  I find that most couples are able to communicate in a much more civilized manner when discussing their history in front of an impartial, trained third person and that underlying emotions can be aired and fully heard without blame.  Such a valuable process!  It starts the movement toward repair, and many couples find that just a few sessions can point out how best to proceed.


                                                              Defeat depression.  

 
Within the  counselling sessions, we can work on rediscovering your positive strengths, overcoming  depression and learning better coping skills.  You can learn how to set small goals for yourself that will permit you to lead a happier, more fulfilling life.  You can start paying attention to what you want in life and stop getting hooked by what you don't want.

New techniques, scientifically researched for effectiveness, are based on mind-body connections, often made in childhood.  These connections may be at the root of  depression or even relationship/couple issues.

Whether you are dealing with depression due to work, family or relationship issues, the act of taking an hour for yourself with a counsellor can be seen as a first step in self-care and self-awareness which leads to an improved sense of contentment with life.


Sometimes the very act of making an appointment motivates people to get out of their lethargy and start moving.  Going for a daily walk, even in our cold winter temperatures, can improve mood, and being accountable for just this one small goal between sessions has proven beneficial.  And there is an added benefit if you want to lose weight!

Here is what one client said after two months , 5 sessions, and a 19 lb weight loss:

"Being able to talk with someone who is neutral clears the mind.  The handout on coping statements lowered stress level at work."  R. U., 30, Dec 17, 2013


And another client had this to say:

"Knowing that I would be seeing you the following week made me accountable.  I managed to complete one small goal every day and that was so helpful in lifting me out of my depression."  C.B., 48, Jan 6, 2014

Call 604.992.1914 for a brief consult and/or to make an appointment.



Repair family impasses.  Find peace within.

Sometimes family members just stop talking to each other, usually as the result of an argument that escalates out of control.  Taking time-outs is a recognized way of calming down and tapping into the rational brain, but when the time-outs last for years, something needs to be done to kick start the process of making up.  And what better time to do this than now at the beginning of a new year? 
Just a few sessions of communications coaching may lead to healthy repairs.

                                       Lifespan Integration

     I am passionate about my work and make a practice of keeping up with the latest research, whether it is for marriage counselling, anxiety, depression, stress or communication.    I have recently trained in LI, or Lifespan Integration, a wonderful new method whereby painful childhood memories are processed to bring peace and closure and thus enable the adult self to go about their life more calmly and purposefully.  Already, present clients are telling me that they notice a difference, and equally wonderfully, their nearest and dearest are telling them that they too notice a difference!
    
      "My whole outlook on life is completely different - instead of blaming people, I try to be better for them, give them more benefit of the doubt"
J.J. , 31, Jan 7, 2014

     "It's like a miracle.  I came in so stressed and anxious, and after one session  I felt so calm and peaceful."  A.V., 48  Feb 4, 2014

     "My husband said that he noticed how much calmer I was after our last session.  Small things just don't bother me any more."  D.E., 37, Mar 10, 2014

                                                 Summary


Here is a summary of what we might focus on in therapy using a variety of counselling methods for both individuals and couples:

  • Step-by-step coaching of communication skills with your spouse/partner/teen/colleague
  • How to go from reacting angrily to acting peacefully
  • Skilled practice in asserting your own needs and emotions in respectful, non-judgmental ways
  • Scientifically researched and statistically proven tips  in couples counselling to improve relationships
  • Strategies to overcome depression and anxiety, geared to your  personality
  • Techniques for stress reduction
  • Exploration of how childhood memories impact your life now. 

     Together we explore your inner strengths, beliefs, and values and with your specific input as to problems disrupting your life, set goals and determine the best therapy. You will recognize and be able to follow your life path with confidence and courage.

Couples in counselling sessions say they  improve positivity and understanding of negative cycles after just one session. The communications handout gives a workable guide between sessions and helps immediately to lower tension between partners, or between parents and children. 

     Please call 604-992-1914 for a consultation and/or to set up an appointment.  Currently accepting new clients. 

                                                Find my office.
My office is easily accessed either by car or by public transit from anywhere in the Tri-Cities area, whether Port Moody, Coquitlam or Port Coquitlam,  Located across the street from Dairy Queen on Moray Road, and next to the Mazda dealership,  the building offers free parking during your session.

Page 3 of this site offers a map for exact location. 


Suite 205 - 3190 St Johns Street
Port Moody
V3H 2C7

T: 604-992-1914
E: b.leigh@telus.net


Individual or Couple Counselling for Coquitlam, Port Coquitlam, Port Moody, Maple Ridge and surrounding areas.



"Walk life's path with easy grace."
 








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